Journal Entry of a nice guy.

[ogihci]

Now feel free to disagree with me if you wish I don't mind.

I've been thinking allot about this recently and just felt like getting it out. People have said that nice guys finish last, me I don't think this is quite accurate, the truth is its only they ones who can't find the voice in which to ask a girl out even in things such as jobs or a place in line this is also what happens. Its not that we finish last because were nice, though we are we can't voice are opinion on a matter as we cant find the words with which to do so or the voice to pour them out.

Also on the other subject, girls that say there aren't that many nice guys out there, this is untrue. We are out there and every where, we just find it hard to come to you and ask you that special question. Many times we need you to come to us as we find ourselves too shaken by you to even attempt. Now we may not necessarily be up to your standards of attractive or even cute, we may not be what you would think to be boyfriend material, but most of all were often the ones who are too shy and seem to blend and can be right in front of your face. We don't mean to do this we just...do.

In ending don't just judge the guy in the corner as some loaner, he could very well be that special nice guy you have been looking for. That guy who seems unattractive could very well change your mind just by his personality, and most of all that shy guy that everyone giggles at for being so or seems he has more guys friends than most, could be that very special someone you have been searching all your life for. Thank you for taking the time to read this. - Devin Michael Vanwagner 12:52am 12/4/2010

[Wicked]

It's an interesting concept, but it's not entirely true. Not every guy who's nice is shy; I've yet to meet an arrogant guy that's nice.

[Aegoras]

Dec 4, 2010 9:02:57 GMT -5 Wicked said:

It's an interesting concept, but it's not entirely true. Not every guy who's nice is shy; I've yet to meet an arrogant guy that's nice.

Agreed. Some assholes are shy, on the other side of that same coin. Once you get to know them, they have a tendency to reveal themselves as jerks.

As far as I know, there is no correlation between nice and timid, though admittedly the two do seem to be present in the same individuals as often as outgoing and obnoxious do. I think a more accurate though less used statement would be, "Timid guys finish last". One can be nice and not be a doormat, but that has to do with setting healthy boundaries, which too few people know how to do.

And I've been known to exhibit a "faux" arrogance more for humor's sake than anything else when I know the people I'm interacting with, but they can generally tell when I'm just being a smartass, and not actually being cocky.

[Wicked]

Well, not everyone can be a doormat, but if you're Hanatarou, you'll have clusters of fangirls anyways.

[Stour]

As someone who was quiet and nice for the first 16 years of his life, I can inform you that only good things come of speaking up. There's no reason to be nervous about what people think, because in reality, they're not worth your time. What's important is that you stop biting your tongue when you need to say something, and just be happy with the results, or at least just accept them.


In reality, it was my social experiment in high school. Just deciding to not filter out all comments anymore. Instead of just holding conversations, start them; however ridiculously you might have to for the first few times. You'll be surprised by how quickly you'll get comfortable with it.


Thing is, being quiet and nice will not get you anywhere. Nobody's going to assume the guy who doesn't say anything ever is a good potential date. You have to at least be verbal at some points.


Regards,

A former shy kid.